Weekly Feminist Happenings July 29th to August 4th

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Tuesday, July 29th

Review of Utah Library Media Standards for Public Schools: On Friday, May 9, the Utah State School Board reviewed and discussed the Utah Standards for Library Media (grades 6-12). They voted to allow the Standards to move forward to public comment. On Monday, May 19, the Standards were posted on the USOE website for all interested members of the public to comment after reading them. Review, insight, and comments from all stakeholders in Utah—teacher librarians, teachers, administrators, and parents—are a critical part of this public comment session! Please read them and submit your feedback before August 17, 2014.

Wednesday, July 30th

Pioneering Women in Utah’s History Tour with Utah NOW: Come learn about Utah’s interesting history of women in politics with Utah NOW. One of our members has designed an amazing tour to help engage women of all ages with the history of our foremothers and their influence in Utah’s political landscape. Details: From 6-7 p.m. at the Utah State Capitol 30 spots are available! Reserve your spot by emailing nowutah@gmail.com with your name and phone number.

Thursday, July 31st

The 3% Road Show: Kat Gordon, founder of the 3% Conference, will give a seminar on the business value that diversity delivers to agencies, advertisers, and their clients. She will be followed by a panel discussion, with time set aside for cocktails and mingling. Details:  From 4:30-8: 30 p.m. at the Gallivan Center (239 S Main St., Salt Lake City). Register here.

Friday, August 1st

Park City Kimball Arts Festival: Make sure to visit the Kimball Arts Festival in Park City from August 1-3. Check out more event info on the Kimball Arts Center Festival page.

Film screening of Twenty Feet from Stardom: The annual Sundance Institute Summer Series is back and our 2014 line up has something for everyone. Grab a blanket, pack a picnic, and bring your friends to enjoy Sundance Film Festival favorites under the stars. All screenings are free and open to the public. No ticket needed. Details: From 9-11 p.m. at City Park (1354 Park Avenue, Park City). 

Saturday, August 2nd

Slutwalk: Join us for our 4th annual march and rally to end victim blaming and slut shaming. This year we will be holding a five hour festival event with entertainers, resources, activities, vendor booths and food along with our traditional rally and march.
This year START BY BELIEVING those who disclose their experiences of sexual violence and learn how to support them! This event is FREE and open to everyone. Bring your entire family and your friends.

BECAUSE SURVIVORS DESERVE OUR SUPPORT, NOT OUR SCRUTINY.

Details: From 12-5 p.m. starting at Washington Square (451 South State St).

Dash for Donation: Honor organ, eye and tissue donors and celebrate transplantation by participating in the Dash for Donation 5k dash/2k walk. Proceeds will go to support donation education efforts and to maintain Utah’s Celebration of Life Monument. Details: Register here. A Fine Line: Understanding Our Everyday Borders: UMOCA educators will use a variety of creative tools to shed light on borders, real and imagined, in everyday life. Little artists will discover the borders they have created in their lives, whether they are walls, painted lines, or barriers between school and home life, and express what these divisions mean to them through games, discussion, and creating their own assemblage art. Details: From 2-4 p.m. at the Utah Museum of Contemporary Art (20 S. West Temple, Salt Lake City). 

We Are Doing A Disservice to Dads

Talon (age 2) and his co-parenting pops, Ben. Image courtesy of the Hulet family.

Talon (age 2) and his co-parenting pops, Ben. Image courtesy of the Hulet family.

[Ed. Note: This is a guest post by the  brilliant, Kyl Myers]

We are doing a disservice to dads. Our culture perpetuates an ideology that fathers are secondary caregivers and not as capable as mothers when it comes to raising children. This way of thinking is unreasonable and it is harmful to fatherhood (not to mention motherhood) and it disempowers men.

Dads matter.

Dads are awesome.

Dads need more credit and more opportunities to change the paradigm of parenthood.

Everyone probably knows at least one dad (hopefully) who changes 50% of the diapers, does 50% of the carpooling, is in charge of half the baths, half the packed lunches, and answers half of the infinite questions asked by their kiddos.

So you know one dad like that? Why aren’t all dads that you know like that?

Think about all the children you know who have a mom and dad who live in the same house. How many of those children are genuinely co-parented? Have you ever overheard a father telling his friend, “I really should call my wife to see how she’s doing with the baby. I get so nervous leaving her alone with him for too long!”? Sounds crazy when it’s flipped, but that’s often how moms talk when the kids are alone with their dad.

Have you ever seen a dad profusely thank their wife for changing a diaper? Probably not, but moms thank dads ALL THE TIME for changing diapers, making bottles, or waking up in the middle of the night with the baby. As if dad is “helping out” or “pitching in” or doing work that exclusively belongs to the mother and she is slightly embarrassed she couldn’t manage it all.

Don’t get me wrong – expressing gratitude to your child’s other parent is wonderful – but the ratio of who is getting thanked is skewed and conveys a message of “you really didn’t have to do that – thanks for going out of your way!”

Tis bullshit.

Dads are equally responsible for and capable of rearing their children, but they have to have the chance to do so.

Stop saying that dads are “babysitting” while mom has a night out with her friends. No one says mom is “babysitting” when dad goes out with his friends! One parent is with the kid while the other parent is out? Oh, that’s just called p a r e n t i n g. Quit stripping dads of their confidence. The “mother-knows-best” mentality has to go because it’s making motherhood superior over fatherhood (heaping undue pressure on moms and discrediting dads at the same time). Mothers and fathers both have unlimited amounts of love, experiences and advice to give their children.

Fathers typically parent differently than mothers. Not worse, not better, but different. And guess what? It’s good for kids to have exposure to different kinds of parenting styles. In his book, Fatherneed: Why Father Care Is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child, Kyle D. Pruett, M.D. describes the effects of father care on child development. Well-fathered children have better adaptive and problem-solving abilities, strengthened cognitive capacities, and social competencies, such as: secure attachments, empathy, absence of gender role stereotyping, self-control, and moral sensitivity. The physical development of a child is even positively associated with father presence and involvement. And the benefits of having an awesome dad are not exclusively absorbed by the kid – dad benefits, too! Pruett states, “Bottom line: the closer the connection between father and child, the better off they both are now and in the future.”

Dads need to feel equal in their parenting partnership with moms – not inferior, not second class, and certainly not like a babysitter. When dads co-parent they have better relationships with their children. When parents equally contribute to raising their children, they have happier marriages.

Dads matter.

Dads are awesome.

Dads need more credit and more opportunities to change the paradigm of parenthood.

Weekly Feminist Happenings July 22nd-28th

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Tuesday, July 22nd

Navigating New Literacies: In the spring of 2014, Granger High art students collaborated to create a 29-panel contemporary painting reflecting their impressions of how literacy in different fields of study is supported and at the same time challenged by new technologies and popular culture. Details: At the  Utah Cultural Celebration Center (1355 W. 3100 South, West Valley City). The exhibit will run July 8-Aug. 27, 2014.

United Way Of Salt Lake Volunteers: Help United Way of Salt Lake “Stuff the Bus” with school supplies for 8,500 low-income children served through neighborhood centers and community schools. Volunteers are needed to conduct school supply drives throughout their community. Details: For more information and to register to conduct a supply drive here or  contact Amy Worthington at 801-746-2566. Volunteers are needed until Aug. 31, 2014.

Wednesday, July 23rd

Locals Appreciation Party Supporting Utah Business & Culture: Merco Local & Salt Lake Acting Company will hold a locals appreciation party, July 23, 2014. Creatives, artists, actors, local consumers, local companies and business owners join up for a night to appreciate ourselves! We celebrate supporting local. We have partnered with Salt Lake Acting Company and reserved the theater for ourselves on July 23rd for a night of fun. Details: Dinner, apps, drinks, socializing and adult spirits at 5:30 and a show at 7:30 (Saturday’s Voyeur). You can bring your own food and drinks for additional treats during the show if desired. Visit here for information.

Thursday, July 24th

Native American Celebration: After the Pioneer Day Parade come to Liberty Park for dance, food, family fun, and fireworks as part of the 20th annual Native American Celebration in the Park. Witness the amazing cultures of Native America. The best drum groups share captive music as dancers energetically move with meaning and purpose. Artists featuring works in a variety of mediums from intricate Native American beadwork to authentic Navajo and Zuni silver and turquoise jewelry. Enjoy a filling Navajo taco or mutton stew and frybread. Details: Starts at noon until 10 p.m. at Liberty Park (900 S. 500 East, Salt Lake City).

Friday, July 25th

Caregiver Support Group: Join the Neighborhood House Caregiver Support Group. The fourth Thursday of every month, visit Neighborhood House’s Cottonwood Adult Day Center to enjoy some time and discussion with other caregivers in the area. Hosted by Neighborhood House and Gentiva Home Hospice. Details: Contact Debbie Colby, Program Coordinator at Cottonwood Neighborhood House 801-277-3264 or cottonadmin@nhutah.org for more information.

Saturday, July 26th

Peru Fest: Come and celebrate Peruvian culture with Peru Fest, food, dance with live bands, folk and andean music, prizes, contests, and the crowning of Miss Peru Utah. Details: From 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. at the Utah Cultural Celebration Center (1355 W. 3100 South, West Valley City).

Monday, July 28th

Lemonade Stand And Bake Sale Fundraiser: Armani McFarland, 11, will hold a lemonade stand and bake sale  to raise money to buy backpacks and school supplies for Catholic Community Services of Utah’s Backpack Bonanza. Details: From 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. at the Goodwood Barbecue Co (4237 Riverdale Rd, Ogden).

Films Without Borders – Meet The PatelsFresh out of a break-up with his American girlfriend, and freaked out that he’s almost 30 and single, Ravi Patel goes on a family vacation to India with his head and heart spinning. Ravi is desperate to find love and embarks on a worldwide search for his bride in this witty and heart-felt comedy. Post-film discussion with filmmakers, Geeta Patel and Ravi Patel. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the Salt Lake City Public Library – Main (210 E. 400 South, Salt Lake City). 

File This Under “Bad Ass Women”

Kacy Catanzaro at the 2014 Dallas Finals for American Ninja Warrior.

Weekly Feminist Happenings July 8th-14th

Damn These Heels LGBT Film Festival

Tuesday, July 8th

Film screening of Buck: The 2011 documentary “Buck,” a profile of real-life “horse whisperer” Buck Brannaman, who overcame a violent childhood to develop gentle practices in training horses. Presented by the Utah Film Center. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at  Salt Lake City Public Library – Main (210 E. 400 South, Salt Lake City).

Thursday, July 10th

Film screening of The Muslims Are Coming: The documentary “The Muslims Are Coming,” which follows a group of Muslim-American comedians on cross-country tour of the United States (including a stop in Salt Lake City). Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the  Viridian Event Center (1825 W. 8030 South, West Jordan).

Cathryn Lokey reading: Cathryn Lokey will read from and sign her memoir, “The Perfect Daughter,” about growing up a faithful member of the Mormon church, and after mission work, marriage, and motherhood realizing she is gay. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the The King’s English Bookshop (1511 S. 1500 East, Salt Lake City). 

Friday, July 11th

Cultural Cartographies: Mapping Man-made Interventions In Contemporary Landscapes: Focusing on still image or film making as a primary medium, this series explores how varied manifestations of political, environmental, urban, and utopian interventions inform a more contemporary way of thinking about the entanglement of history and geography. Visit the UMOCA website for more information. Details: From 11 a.m. to 9 p.m. at at the Utah Museum of Contemporary Art (20 S. West Temple, Salt Lake City).

Damn These Heels LGBT Film Festival: The Utah Film Center presents Damn These Heels LGBT Film Festival July 11-13 in Salt Lake City. Damn These Heels provides a forum in which LGBT issues, ideas, hopes, dreams, and art are explored through film and discussion. Details: Buy your passes here. 

Saturday, July 12th

Junior League Health Fair: The Junior League of Salt Lake City will offer medical test, screenings, and community assistance information provided by 250 local medical community agencies and volunteers to individuals and families through the Community Assistance and Resource Event Fair. Details: From 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. at  Horizonte Instruction and Training Center (1234 S. Main St., Salt Lake City). For information visit the Junior League website or call 801-355-1868.

Animal Adoptions: Join The Leonardo and Humane Society of Utah on the second Saturday of each month for a chance to adopt a pet. Humane Society of Utah’s priority is to work hard to ensure that every healthy and treatable pet that enters their facility will be placed into a loving home. Visit here for more information. 

Sunday, July 13th

“Moksha: Photography by Fazal Sheikh” weaves the artist-activist’s portraits and the stories of a community of widows in the Hindu pilgrimage site of Vrindavan. A marginalized segment of Hindu society since ancient times, widows have few places of sanctuary. In Vrindavan, a city holy to the Hindu god Krishna, these women chant and pray every day in the hopes of obtaining moksha, release from the constant cycle of death and rebirth. Details: The exhibit runs July 11–Nov. 30, 2014. Visit here for more information. 

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