Weekly Feminist Happenings September 30th-October 6th

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Thursday, October 2nd

14TH ANNUAL GAY-LA & SILENT AUCTION

  • WAGNER JEWISH COMM. CENTER
  • OCT. 2 | RECEPTION AT 6:00PM
  • Benefitting the LGBT Resource Center Scholarship and Emergency Fund Program

Friday, October 3rd

SERVING OUR COMMUNITY: A CLOTHING DRIVE TO BENEFIT UTAH PRIDE

  • MARRIOTT LIBRARY AND UNION (University of Utah)
  • OCT. 3-9 | OPEN HOURS
  • Collection boxes will be located in the Marriott Library and Union building. Clothing will be donated to the Utah Pride Center, Youth and Trans communities

Kenan Trebincevic reading of The Bosnia List: A Memoir of War, Exile, and Return: At age eleven, Kenan Trebincevic was a happy, karate-loving kid living with his family in the quiet Eastern European town of Brcko. Then, in the spring of 1992, war broke out and his friends, neighbors and teammates all turned on him. Pero – Kenan’s beloved karate coach – showed up at his door with an AK-47 – screaming: “You have one hour to leave or be killed!” Kenan’s only crime: he was Muslim. This poignant, searing memoir chronicles Kenan’s miraculous escape from the brutal ethnic cleansing campaign that swept the former Yugoslavia. After two decades in the United States, Kenan honors his father’s wish to visit their homeland, making a list of what he wants to do there. Kenan decides to confront the former next door neighbor who stole from his mother, see the concentration camp where his Dad and brother were imprisoned and stand on the grave of his first betrayer to make sure he’s really dead. Back in the land of his birth, Kenan finds something more powerful—and shocking—than revenge. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the Salt Lake City Public Library (210 E. 400 South, Salt Lake City).

Monday, October 6th

FAMILY FUN NIGHT

  • UNION BLDG. – LOWER LEVEL (University of Utah)
  • OCT. 6 | 5:30-8:30PM
  • Games, activities, and treats for families of all kinds. Tarot card readings, face painting, bowling, pool, and much more!

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The Wedding Industrial Complex: Paying For Your Love

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Hey, fellow feminists. Just checking in to tell you that the wedding industry is pretty ridiculous. It’s over-priced and over-bearing. It tells you that you need things you don’t, and makes you feel bad for trying to leave those things out. How many parties do married people need? Apparently they need an engagement party, a bridal shower, bachelor/bachelorette/Jack & Jill, rehearsal dinner, and the wedding. Oh, and a honeymoon. Can’t forget the honeymoon. I’m counting that as six or seven parties (depending on how you do the bachelorette thing), and that just seems ri-god-damn-diculous.

I have to say…I get the feeling more and more that this whole process is just an evil capitalist construct mean to separate me and my partner from our money. I don’t know, maybe I’m just bitter about it? It just seems more and more that this process isn’t about love, but forcing couples to register with the state and give money to people who rent chairs for a living.

What did you forego at your wedding to make it more affordable? Does your romantic relationship still suffer to this day because you decided to pass on the extra cake tier? Tell me here! 

 

Weekly Feminist Happenings September 23rd-29th

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Tuesday, September 23rd

Banned Books Week: September 21-27 is Banned Books Week The King’s English will take part in this annual, national celebration of the freedom to read and the importance of the First Amendment. We will lock arms with other booksellers, publishers, educators, librarians, readers and others across the U.S. in this week-long observance to remind Americans of the importance of preventing censorship and ensuring everyone’s freedom to read any book they choose.

Film screening of American Meat: This documentary looks at problems in the meat industry and possible solutions. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the Salt Lake City Library (210 E. 400 South, Salt Lake City).

Wednesday, September 24th

Katharine Coles Poetry Reading: Katharine Coles, internationally read poet and professor of creative writing and poetry at University of Utah, will give a reading of her poetry and discuss her adventures in writing poetry across the globe. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the Orem Public Library (58 N. State St., Orem).

Screening of Alive Inside: The documentary “Alive Inside,” which follows a social worker who works to help nursing-home residents with dementia by playing them music of their youth. Presented by the Utah Film Center. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the Taggart Student Center (650 N. 800 East, Logan).

Thursday, September 25th

The 16th Annual Diversity Conference at Weber State University: This conference will explore the importance of diversity in education, Sept. 25-26, 2014. The conference will feature multiple workshops and speeches that revolve around the theme “Diversity and Education: The Danger of the Single Story.” Myron Anderson, an associate professor of teacher education at Metropolitan State University of Denver, will give the keynote address, “Why Inclusive Excellence?” on Sept. 26 at 11:30 a.m. in the Shepherd Union Ballrooms. Details: Visit the Weber State Center for Diversity and Unity for more information.

Escalante Canyons Art Festival-Everett Ruess Days: This event celebrates the wild beauty of Escalante this year in conjunction with the 50th anniversary of the Wilderness Act. Named for the spirit of poet, artist, and adventurer, Everett Ruess, who disappeared into the remote slickrock canyons of the Escalante 80 years ago, the festival draws plein air artists, musicians, and speakers from across the nation. All festival events are free and open to the public. Details: Hosted at the Escalante City Center (100 W. Highway 12, Escalante). For a full schedule of events, times, and locations visit the Escalante Canyon Arts Festival website. 

Friday, September 26th

SLC Green City Music Festival: SLC Green City Music Festival is a 2-day music, technology & eco-cultural festival, held Sept. 26-27, 2014. This is a festival to unite the community around sustainable innovations by bringing together forward thinking businesses, organizations and artists. Details: Hosted at Impact Hub (150 S. State, Salt Lake City). The main event will be held Sept. 27, starting at noon. It will feature primary sponsor booths, key note speakers, live bands, and VIP section, food, drinks and alcohol.

Maggie Nelson Poetry Reading: Westminster College will present a free poetry reading by poet Maggie Nelson on Sept. 26, 2014. Nelson is the author of four books of nonfiction and four books of poetry. Her most recent book, “The Art of Cruelty: A Reckoning” was named a New York Times Notable Book of the Year and an Editors’ Choice. Details: Starts at 7pm at the Bill and Vieve Gore School of Business (1840 S. 1300 East, Salt Lake City). 

Saturday, September 27th

The James P. Huber Veterans Foundation Golf Tournament: The James P. Huber Veterans Foundation will host a golf tournament, the proceeds of which go to the foundation that helps with veterans outreach programs. Details: Registration includes continental breakfast, lunch, tee gifts, prizes, silent auction. For more information, contact Mick Riley, 385-468-1400 or Jim Huber, 650-743-7663. Preregister at here.

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He Never Hit Me: The Other Side of Abuse

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[Ed. Note: This is a guest post from Eliza McGowen. Eliza is a senior creative writing major at the Johns Hopkins University. When she isn't in Baltimore, she likes to be home on Cape Cod or traveling. This is her first article on abuse but definitely not her last.]

You would have to be living under a rock to be unaware of the surge in protest against the lopsided way our society deals with physical abuse and rape culture against women. Just this week, a video finally came out showing Ray Rice hit his then-fiancé. Amidst social media uproar, the Ravens officially ended his contract. Although many are already touting about how they took the high road, I believe the fact that they did not release him as soon as the story broke will forever be a black mark for the team and the NFL.

Unfortunately, despite the fact that this issue is so prevalent and getting so much coverage, it is still far from being solved. Ray Rice originally received a two-week suspension for his crime, less than the punishment for a player who got caught smoking weed. Without a doubt, it will take years for our culture to face the fact that rape and sexual assault is prevalent everywhere, from prestigious universities like the Johns Hopkins University, to city slums.

But there is another side to abuse that has still remained under the radar: emotional and mental abuse.

After a quick Google search of “laws preventing emotional abuse,” I wasn’t surprised to find that almost all the links were for child abuse and elder abuse. I am not discounting these issues as “less than” the one I am discussing, but the fact that nothing on the first page had any information about this kind of abuse in relationships shows that it still has not been recognized the way it should.

So what is emotional abuse?

It is many things. There is a list of “signs” of emotional abuse: derogatory remarks, shaming, domination and accusations. According to an online survey commissioned by Glamour, and with help from various domestic abuse organizations, 94 percent of young women have admitted to receiving emotional abuse. But there are still no headlines about these women’s stories. Many will argue that there is too fine a line. I would argue that right now there is no line at all.

I spent over a year in an emotionally abusive relationship that I have been fortunate enough to put behind me. My significant other found a varied number of ways to mess with my head. He would call me a variety of derogatory terms (use your imagination) before breaking down in tears and begging me to forgive him. For over nine months he held my laptop in his possession, deleted my Facebook and forbid me from using my phone. When he found out I had been talking to a male friend via text, he split my flip phone in half and whipped it past my head. For the next year he took glee in cracking the SIM card of each consecutive phone my parents bought me each time I told them I had “lost” the last.

He taunted me through emails (my only allowed form of communication at the time), forbid me to spend time with him in school and forbid others from inviting me to parties and gatherings. The list goes on and on. Yet each time I would be at the breaking point he would come to me, telling me how much he needed me.

But never once did he physically hurt me. Although I spent much of that year alone, I kept telling myself that one-day he would realize that he loved me enough to stop punishing me. I will admit to all of you that I did cheat on him, which is what resulted in his behavior. It took me over four years to finally convince myself that my infidelities were never bad enough to warrant that year of abuse. It took me months of therapy and healing to even admit to myself that it was just that: abuse.

So what is the answer?

Can you really create legislation or change that protects people from emotionally abusive partners? Probably not. But as a society we can help spread awareness and streamline ways to get help. We can put out stories that get national attention to show that 94 percent that they are not alone, and that what they are going through is not okay. Although I had supportive parents and friends who tried to intervene, I did not think they understood what I was going through. Even now it seems hard to imagine anyone suffering through a year of such treatment and holding out as I did; but without a doubt, there are women who have been demoralized this way. Look at Janay Palmer, Ray Rice’s wife. She has come out publicly against the NFL ruling. We should not shame her for standing by her husband. We should work to help women like her recognize that his actions are not OK and that a “one-time” mistake is no big deal. Though she is a victim of physical abuse, the central issue is the same.

I am lucky enough to say that four years after coming out my relationship I have almost fully recovered. There are still certain characteristics in men that make me feel fearful and anxious, but at the same time I have learned what I will not stand for in relationships. It is only my hope that by starting the discussion around the issue that I can help other women do the same.

 

Weekly Feminist Happenings September 16th-22nd

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Tuesday, September 16th

Telos: The Fantastic World Of Eugene Tssui: The documentary “Telos: The Fantastic World of Eugene Tssui,” a profile of the eccentric visionary and maverick architect who put nature and the environment at the forefront of his designs long before “green” and “eco-friendly” became buzzwords. Presented by the Utah Film Center. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the Salt Lake City Public Library (210 E. 400 South, Salt Lake City).

Wednesday, September 17th

Journey Stories: Journey Stories is a traveling Smithsonian exhibition that explores how migration and transportation build our nation, how it has changed us, and how our mobile world looked to travelers along the way. Complementing the exhibit is “Nation of Immigrants,” an art exhibition featuring the works of 25 local artists. Opening Reception: Sept. 15, 6-8 p.m. Also, the Repertory Dance Theater will present Journeys, a collection of dramatized dances that tell the histories of five ethnic minority families, and their journey to Utah. Details: From 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. at the Utah Cultural Celebration Center (1355 W. 3100 South, West Valley City). 

Chris Young Lecture Presented by Utah Council for Citizen Diplomacy: “Fixin’ What’s Broke: The Post-2015 UN Agenda.” Details: Starts at 7 p.m. in the Vieve Gore Concert Hall, Westminster College, 1840 S. 1300 E., Salt Lake City.

Thursday, September 18th

Screening of Lilting: Lilting tells the story of the death of a young man in London, and how it brings together his Cambodian-Chinese mother and his English boyfriend together. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at Brewvies Cinema & Pub (677 S. 200 West, Salt Lake City). 

Friday, September 19th

Cherish the Child Fundraiser: Come support The Family Support Center, Sept. 19, 2014. Come enjoy some music and messages of hope surrounding child abuse. A light breakfast will be served. Details: From 7:30-9:00 a.m. at the Little America Hotel (500 S. Main St., Salt Lake City). RSVP with the Family Support Center. 

Reza Ali Khazeni Lecture – Shi’i Islam & Its Manifestations In Iran: The Reza Ali Khazeni Memorial Foundation and the University of Utah College of Humanities & Middle Easter Center will present “Shi’i Islam & Its Manifestations in Iran,” by Farhad Daftary of the Institute of Ismaili Studies, London, Sept. 19, 2014. A reception will follow. Details: Starts at 6 p.m. at the University of Utah – Carolyn Tanner Irish Humanities (215 S. Central Campus Drive, Salt Lake City). 

Blue Stockings: The University of Utah Department of Theatre will present “Blue Stockings,” Sept. 19-28, 2014. Blue Stockings is a moving, comical, and eye-opening story of four young women fighting for their education against the backdrop of women’s suffrage. Details: Runs from September 19th-28th at the Babcock Theatre (300 S. 1400 East, Salt Lake City).

Screening of Something from Nothing: The Art of Rap: The documentary “Something From Nothing: The Art of Rap,” in which directors Ice-T and Andy Baybutt explore the history, craft and power of hip-hop – with interviews with such stars as Nas, Kanye West, Afrika Bambaataa, Chuck D, KRS-One, Snoop Dogg, Run-DMC, and Ice Cube. Details: Screened outdoors on the lawn at the University of Utah – Olpin Union Building.

Saturday, September 20th

Salt Lake AIDS Walk: Register today for Salt Lake AIDS Walk and make a difference in preventing new infections and providing compassionate services to those impacted by HIV/AIDS. Join us for a 2.5 mile pledge walk in downtown Salt Lake City, Saturday, September 20, 2014. Signup as an individual and start or join a team today. Bring your friends, family and co-workers to help raise AIDS awareness. Register for FREE today! Fundraising is not required but encouraged to support of critical AIDS service programs throughout Utah. Details: Visit the Salt Lake Aids Walk website for more information.

Sunday, September 21st

Walk A Mile In Her Shoes: Beg, borrow or reel in some high heels or other fancy footwear for a mile-long walk in Park City’s historic Main Street from City Park up through the Park Silly Market on Sept. 21, 2014. Please join us for this light-hearted event and help support Peace House raise awareness and break the cycle of domestic violence in our community. Details: From 10-11:30 a.m. at Park City City Park (1354 Park Ave., Park City). Register at the Peace House website.

People’s Climate Mobilisation: Climate change isn’t just about polar bears! Climate change is an issue of ethics. Climate change is about curbing the potential scientifically articulated social and ecological disaster that will ensue due to change in climate. Low- income, indigenous groups, people of color, people geographically located in the Global South—will have to carry the heaviest burdens from social and ecological disruptions. All humans, regardless of identity and geography, will be affected by the change as the result of climate change. Changes such as (but not limited to): drought, food scarcity, flooding, mass relocation of human habitat, consequential growth of diseases, etc. Further, the species of this planet are in great danger. Climate change will result in mass extinction. We have no PLANet B. We, as Earthlings, must band together for a shared vision surrounding equality, resilience, sustainability, and love. Complacency is the single greatest threat to the conservation and sustainability of our fragile planet. The single greatest threat to this planet is complacency. We, as people of this time and space, must use our voices and actions to show that we deeply care about climate justice. It is our right to live on a planet with a livable climate. It is the right of all living things to inhabit a planet with a livable climate. We must be resolute in our voices being heard to ensure that our social and political enactors create policies and projects that address climate change We, in Salt Lake City, stand in solidarity and peace with the People’s Climate Change March in NYC! PLEASE BRING POSTER MATERIALS, FRIENDS, FAMILY, NEIGHBORS, PASSION, AND A WILL FOR POSITIVE TRANSFORMATION! Details: Visit here for more information.

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