Bye Bye Boobies!

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It’s a sad state of affairs when gender-affirming surgeries aren’t covered by insurance, but the SLC Feminist community can help! Jamie is going in for top surgery and needs some help with the last little bit. Every dollar helps on their gender journey.

Here is Jamie’s description of the fundraiser from Indiegogo:

Hi! My name is Jamie, I’m a 24 yr old public health grad student and full-time employee. I identify as non-binary and use they/them/their pronouns. I live in downtown Salt Lake with my cutie partner Dot and a sassy lil cat named Cleo.

I created this Indiegogo page to raise money for my surgery with Dr. Cori Agarwal on May 14, 2015. As I have been prioritizing things in my life in order to do what makes me happiest, I have realized how critical this surgery is for me in helping me feel valid in my gender identity, as my chest is my biggest source of my dysphoria. Unfortunately, neither of my insurances cover trans-related procedures, and so I will be covering the cost of this surgery on my own.

I will be getting double incision top surgery w/nipple grafts, which is an outpatient procedure done under general anesthesia (takes approximately 3-4 hours). Fortunately, my surgeon is located at the U of U hospital, so I will not have any travel expenses.

Dr. Agarwal’s fee for the surgery will be $5,855, plus possible revision costs. So far I have saved $3,900 on my own, but that leaves me $1,955 short. The full cost of surgery must be paid in full by May 1, 2015, which is two weeks before the surgery will take place.

Any small contribution you could make would be incredibly appreciated. No amount is too small. To show my gratitude, I’d like to send a hand written card with a small surprise (doodles or stickers or glitter or WHO KNOWS!?), so if you’d like to receive a card, please include your name so that I can contact you! Thank you thank you thank you.

xoxoxo

Jamie

Watching Your Baby Cry to Teach Him Masculinity

 This video post makes me absolutely sick. “Be a man” is not an okay response to your child’s expressions of fear and pain. This type of parenting is why men are more likely to commit suicide than women, and less likely to obtain mental healthcare. This is toxic masculinity, and it’s heartbreaking.

Parents, if you’re watching this, cut “Be a man,” “Take it like a man,” and all other similar phrases out of your vocabulary right now. Boys, just like little girls, need tenderness and care when they express fear and pain. They don’t need your derision. We need to raise men who are comfortable expressing themselves, and this type of callousness, coupled with public humiliation, just isn’t the way to do it.

Notice the poor little fella gets angry at the end? Do you want to teach your son to stifle pain to the point that he lashes out in anger? I didn’t think so.

Weekly Feminist Happenings March 24th-30th

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Tuesday, March 24th

What’s My Name?: What’s My Name, a group exhibit that opens March 20 at Art Access is a visual expression of dementia and memory loss by those who suffer from Alzheimer’s and their caretakers. Details: From 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. at the Art Access Gallery (230 S. 500 West #125, Salt Lake City). The exhibit will run until April 8, 2015. Visit the Art Access site for more information.

Wednesday, March 25th

Pioneering Women at the Utah State Capitol: Come learn about Utah’s interesting history of women in politics with Utah NOW. One of our board members has designed an amazing tour to help engage women of all ages with the history of our foremothers and their influence in Utah’s political landscape. Details: From 6-7 p.m. Parking is available on the east side of Capitol Hill, and visitors are encouraged to enter the Capitol building through the east doors. The tour will meet at the desk just inside the east doors, on the 1st floor.

Thursday, March 26th

Utah And Climate Change: A Special Lecture by Dr. Katharine Hayhoe, March 26, 2015. Hayhoe, atmospheric scientist and Evangelical Christian, is author of “A Climate for Change: Global Warming Facts for Faith-based Decisions.” Ticketing information: Tickets for Panel Discussion 3 are available for FREE to the public on March 25-26 during the open hours of Clark Planetarium. Tickets are first-come, first-served, and are limited to 6 tickets per request. Tickets must be obtained in person at the Clark Planetarium ticket desk. For information visit the Clark Planetarium site.

Saturday, March 28th

Screening of Still Alice: The drama “Still Alice,” starring Julianne Moore (in her Oscar-winning performance) as a linguistic professor diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. Details: Starts at 8 p.m. at The Prospector (2175 Sidewinder Drive, Park City).

Monday, March 30th

Hands On Bike Maintenance For Women: Trail And Roadside Repair: This hands-on bike maintenance class taught by Salt Lake Shop tech, Tamra Forest, focuses on what to do when you are on your ride and the unexpected happens. From flat tires to broken spokes and noisy chains to broken cables – our instructors will recommend tools for your trail/road tool kit and share tips and tricks to help you triage the situation in the field to keep you riding. Bikes must be clean and in good working order to be used during the class. If your bike does not meet standards you may still attend the clinic. However, you may be asked not to work on your bike. Register early, class size is limited. Details: From 6-8 p.m. at REI – Salt Lake City (3285 E. 3300 South, Millcreek). For more information and to register, visit www.rei.com/saltlakecity or call 801-486-2100.

 

The Art of Leaning Back

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The phrase “lean in” is heavily embedded in public discourse thanks to Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In, a book that has received as much praise as it has criticism. The book was lauded for its no-nonsense career advise and approachable tone, and critiqued for its privileged assumptions and instructions. I fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum on Lean In, because I acknowledge and echo some of the critiques, but I do find myself facing quite a bit of imposter syndrome, and frequently tell myself to lean in at work.

But today is different. Today I’m telling you it’s okay to lean back.

It’s okay to lean back, and it’s incredibly important that we (read: women) listen to our instincts. Listening to your gut is undervalued in our culture that tells women they’re hysterical and irrational, but those gut reactions are often spot on, and even life-saving. If you are second-guessing whether or not you should take on an extra project at work, school, or home, it’s probably a sign that you need a break.

I know this might be sacrilegious, but it’s okay to pass up promotions, opportunities, and social events from time to time, and you don’t even need a reason.

If you are feeling like you can’t handle much more it’s probably not imposter syndrome. Go ahead and ask yourself if it is, but really listen to the answer, because what your head might tell you is, “I’m just fucking tired and don’t want to do anything else.” And that’s okay. There’s a time and a place to lean in, but there’s nothing wrong with being honest about your talents, time, and true desires. It’s not your job to take on every project and engage in some weird Sheryl Sandberg-ian self-flagellation for all womankind. It’s your job to take care of yourself, and the best person to know what you need is you, so start listening to that little voice in your head and take solace as you artfully lean back.

Thank You, Abortion Providers

Thank You Abortion Providers

Thank you to everyone who makes it possible for people to have access to safe reproductive care. Your job is one of tireless scrutiny, but we know the truth, that you provide some of the best medical care to women and trans* men all across the country.

Thank you for holding hands, providing care without judgment, and sacrificing your safety every day that you step into your facility. Without you the world would be a much different, much bleaker place. Thank you for all that you do.