Weekly Feminist Happenings October 21st-27th


Tuesday, October 21st

Jim Winder Phone Bank: Come Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday to help get Winder re-elected. Details: From 5-9 p.m. at Labor Hall (2261 S. Redwood Rd.) Contact Michael Iverson 801-708-2644 if you have any questions.


Rose E. Gottemoeller lecture on nuclear weapons: As under secretary, Gottemoeller advises the secretary of state on arms control, nonproliferation and disarmament. She was a senior associate with the Carnegie Endowment for International Peace, and served as the director of the Carnegie Moscow Center. Visit utahdiplomacy.org/events/rosegottemoeller for information. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the Vieve Gore Concert Hall (1250 E. 1700 South, Salt Lake City).

A Vision For A Restored And Revitalized Jordan River Corridor: The Jordan River, flowing 50-miles through the center of the Salt Lake Valley, is currently experiencing a wave of new appreciation and support. Learn about what is being done and how you can help. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at REI – Salt Lake City (3285 E. 3300 South, Millcreek). For more information and to register here or call 801-486-2100.

Wednesday, October 22nd

Costume Party Phone Bank: Colorado women need our help. There is a very frightening ‘personhood’ amendment that needs to be defeated and we can help by calling voters in Colorado! Find out more about the issue here. Details: From 5:30 to 8pm (come and go as you are able) at the Planned Parenthood Administrative Office (654 South 900 East, SLC, Utah 84102). Bring a laptop and a cellphone

The YMCA’s 3rd Annual DishED-A Benefit for Kids: DishED is the YMCA’s largest fundraising event of the year. All proceeds will benefit the Financial Assistance Program, helping more kids improve their grades, be ready for kindergarten and experience the outdoors at Camp Roger. We hope you will join us in celebrating the Y by getting involved with DishED-A Benefit for Kids. Details: Purchase tickets at here or call 801-839-3384.

Screening of Brave Miss World: The documentary tells the story of Linor Abargil, a beauty queen who was raped by a man who was supposed to protect her – just weeks before she was crowned Miss World. The movie tells her story of coming forward about her rape 10 years later, and the stories of other rape survivors around the world. A discussion will follow the screening, moderated by KRCL’s midday host Eugenie Hero Jaffe. Presented by the Utah Film Center. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. at the Salt Lake City Public Library – Main (210 E. 400 South, Salt Lake City).

Thursday, October 23rd

Rapture, Blister, Burn: Salt Lake Acting Company will present “Rapture, Blister, Burn,” a Pulitzer Prize Finalist by playwright Gina Gionfriddo through November 16th. This sharp witted comedy takes an unflinching look at the politics of gender, and asks can anyone have it all? Details: Call 801-363-7522 for tickets or buy them here.

Equality at the Kitchen Table: Westminster College will present a lecture on “Equality at the Kitchen Table.” The lecture will feature Derek Kitchen and Moudi Sbeity, both plaintiffs leading the case for marriage equality in Utah, Kitchen vs. Herbert. Details: Starts at noon in the Bill and Vieve Gore School of Business (1840 S. 1300 East, Salt Lake City).

Julie Otsuka Discussion: Otsuka will discuss her novel, “When the Emperor Was Divine,” which follows a Japanese-American family as they are uprooted from their Berkeley, California home and forcibly relocated to the Topaz Internment Camp located near Delta, Utah. Details: Starts at 7 p.m. Salt Lake City Public Library – Main (210 E. 400 South, Salt Lake City).

Friday, October 24th

Art Night for Ukraine: Night for Ukraine is an art exhibit that reminds us about the value of a life, importance of freedom and luxury of democracy. Join us at an art exhibit where a Ukrainian artist will share her experiences of a Ukrainian revolution and war. At the end of the event everybody will get a chance to purchase piece of art or donate to help people of Ukraine. The art exhibit is sponsored by Courage to Ukraine. Details: From 6-8 p.m. at Impact Hub (150 S. State, Salt Lake City).

Saturday, October 25th

Children’s Service Society Fundraiser: The Children’s Service Society will present a Zumba fundraising event. The Children’s Service Society provides services that prevent child abuse and neglect.For more information, contact vanessa@cssutah.org or visit here.  Details: Starts at 11 a.m. at the Infinity Event Center (26 E. 600 South, Salt Lake City).

Sunday, October 26th

Monday, October 27th

Getting Married Before My Gay Best Friend

First Gay Wedding Show In Paris

I can’t count the times I’ve grappled with the idea of getting married before it’s legal for my best friend Travis and his partner. I argued with myself for hours about it before I was engaged, and now it’s here: I’m marrying my best friend before Travis gets to marry his.

Travis and his partner have been together for longer than me and Ben. They own a house! (I sort of think owning a house is a bigger commitment than marriage, but don’t tell Ben I said that.) They’ve seen job changes, school registrations, and family hardships together, but they can’t get married.

We can, and it’s not fair. 

The fact is, I’m so excited to proclaim my love and commitment to Ben, but I’m still very uncomfortable with the government sanctioning relationships. Even my own. There are polyamorous relationships that are just as significant as mine, homosexual relationships, and any other iteration you can think of–they’re all valid.

Why does ours receive special privileges? 

It shouldn’t. It sucks, and I’m going to write about this topic more extensively, but tonight I just need to tell you all that it isn’t fair, and I want to ask you to donate some of your hard-earned money to help fight for marriage equality in Utah. Here’s a suggestion from one of my favorite people, a great friend, and a plaintiff in the Kitchen v Herbert case:

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You heard the man, go donate!