Do You Remember The First Time You Felt Body Shame?


Do you remember the first time you felt uncomfortable with your weight? Was it something someone said, or did you just know that you didn’t have the “ideal” body?

For many people feelings of body-shame start early–like the sweet Australian seven-year-old who wrote a diet plan. Amy Cheney found her daughter’s diet list amongst toys and randomly acquired bits. Her daughter wrote down acceptable foods and formulated an exercise plan. A first grader wrote herself a diet plan! We are failing if children are concerned about their body image! (If you disagree, you’re a bad person. End of story.)

Maybe that poor little girl internalized the onslaught of shitty messages which equate size with beauty. You know, messages like the ones from the CEO of Abercrombie & Fitch, who won’t carry XL or XXL sizes in his stores. In an article for Salon he said,

“A lot of people don’t belong [in our clothes], and they can’t belong. Are we exclusionary? Absolutely. Those companies that are in trouble are trying to target everybody: young, old, fat, skinny. But then you become totally vanilla. You don’t alienate anybody, but you don’t excite anybody, either.”

 Let’s get something straight, healthy eating and exercise are great, but they’re great for the sake of good health.
‘Thin’ does not equal ‘healthy’ or ‘beautiful.’

If only society knew that.



  1. Christine Kilpack says:

    I remember the first time I was ashamed of my body. I was going through puberty in the 7th grade and had put on a little weight. I remember my mom and my sister reaching out and pinching my belly and saying chubby, chubby with a little snicker. It was funny to them and I’m sure they didn’t realize that what they were doing was hurting my feelings. I remember constantly sucking my stomach in after that and always being self concious of my weight. I am certainly not saying that one incident caused it but I ended up struggling with an eating disorder and have severe body image issues to this day.

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