How to Spot Vicarious Trauma

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Being in the business of taking care of others is exhausting–there is no doubt about that, but sometimes that feeling of “exhaustion” is so much more. Victim advocates, counselors, and social justice advocates go through countless trainings on vicarious trauma (AKA “compassion fatigue”) and how to spot its symptoms. Here’s a refresher and a cheat sheet for anyone feeling like they might need a break:

What is vicarious trauma?

According to the American Counseling Association:

Vicarious trauma is the emotional residue of exposure that counselors have from working with people as they are hearing their trauma stories and become witnesses to the pain, fear, and terror that trauma survivors have endured.

Signs of  vicarious trauma.

According to Adults Surviving Child Abuse, signs of vicarious trauma can include:

  • Social withdrawal
  • Work-related nightmares
  • Difficulties making decisions
  • Reduced productivity
  • Reduced motivation for your work
  • Loss of sense of control over your work and your life
  • Lowered self esteem, lowered sense of competence in your work
  • Difficulties trusting others
  • Lessened interest in spending time alone
  • Less time spent reflecting on your experiences

How to treat vicarious trauma.

If you think that you might be suffering from vicarious trauma you are not alone. You are doing good work, and you deserve help. The Wendt Center for Loss & Healing provides some tips summarized below:

  • Monitor yourself. In order to stave off vicarious trauma, it is important to keep in touch with your mental and emotional well-being.
  • Take care of your physical health. Eat well, get adequate sleep, and exercise.
  • Take a break. In fact, take a few. You deserve to go to lunch during the day, take a vacation, and ignore phone calls.
  • Separate yourself.  Remember to tell yourself, “This is not my pain. I am just holding it for a little while.”
  • Seek professional help. Sometimes all of the self-care in the world isn’t enough. Reach out to a professional for help managing your vicarious trauma.

I can’t say it enough: you are doing good work. You deserve health, happiness, and healing. If you think you might be suffering from vicarious trauma find the help you need, because this world isn’t any good without you in it.

 

 

 

Bye Bye Boobies!

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It’s a sad state of affairs when gender-affirming surgeries aren’t covered by insurance, but the SLC Feminist community can help! Jamie is going in for top surgery and needs some help with the last little bit. Every dollar helps on their gender journey.

Here is Jamie’s description of the fundraiser from Indiegogo:

Hi! My name is Jamie, I’m a 24 yr old public health grad student and full-time employee. I identify as non-binary and use they/them/their pronouns. I live in downtown Salt Lake with my cutie partner Dot and a sassy lil cat named Cleo.

I created this Indiegogo page to raise money for my surgery with Dr. Cori Agarwal on May 14, 2015. As I have been prioritizing things in my life in order to do what makes me happiest, I have realized how critical this surgery is for me in helping me feel valid in my gender identity, as my chest is my biggest source of my dysphoria. Unfortunately, neither of my insurances cover trans-related procedures, and so I will be covering the cost of this surgery on my own.

I will be getting double incision top surgery w/nipple grafts, which is an outpatient procedure done under general anesthesia (takes approximately 3-4 hours). Fortunately, my surgeon is located at the U of U hospital, so I will not have any travel expenses.

Dr. Agarwal’s fee for the surgery will be $5,855, plus possible revision costs. So far I have saved $3,900 on my own, but that leaves me $1,955 short. The full cost of surgery must be paid in full by May 1, 2015, which is two weeks before the surgery will take place.

Any small contribution you could make would be incredibly appreciated. No amount is too small. To show my gratitude, I’d like to send a hand written card with a small surprise (doodles or stickers or glitter or WHO KNOWS!?), so if you’d like to receive a card, please include your name so that I can contact you! Thank you thank you thank you.

xoxoxo

Jamie